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Friday, May 27, 2005
Toys and Lingerie

My husband loves them. Toys, toys, toys....panties, panties, panties (thongs and g-strings are a must). Although we're new to the whole Dominance/submissive mindset, we have amassed a pretty good collection of lingerie (for moi) and toys, which have been brought out and used throughout our fairly vanilla sex life. Now, the red bag of goodies (our version of the toy box) comes out on every occasion, not just "special" times. So since I have renewed interest in our Stuff, I thought I might write about some of the toys we have once in awhile.

D's most recent purchases are the ever popular vibrating butt plug (don't forget the added waterproof feature) and a big, ole jelly vibrator. I have a love-hate relationship with the butt plug (can we please come up with another name for this torture device?). Well, basically, I have a love-hate relationship with anal sex. Period. Really, if you get me worked up enough, I love it. I cum the hardest when D is fucking me in the ass and gives me my little pink friend, or is caressing my clit himself. I hate it that I enjoy this (does it feel good? do I like feeling so dirty? do I enjoy that it feels so good to him? who knows....). And I hate admitting it even more. And he knows it. Anyway, that's a whole different post in itself. In a nutshell, the vbp (I just can't write vibrating butt plug again) is horrible and glorious, all at the same time. It's a very intense experience that requires a lot of relaxation and trust (for me, anyway). That's that.

A staple in our bag of goodies is Kama Sutra's Honey Dust. I love this stuff! Honey Dust is a high quality product that puts most of those fruity creams and gels to shame. It feels and tastes great, and it's made with cornstarch so it doesn't get sticky or gooey. D loves to lightly rub this all over my body and then lick it off. Honey Dust is a must have for those really sensual playtimes.

That's all I have time for today, but I think I'll talk about my favorite lube and lingerie the next time.

posted by Gabby Hey at 5:13 PM 6 comments
Thursday, May 26, 2005
The Whip is a Flogger!?!

Uh oh. It turns out that I was wrong about my much discussed and anticipated whip. I guess the whip is a really a flogger, or a flogging whip. Oh dear.

posted by Gabby Hey at 2:10 PM 5 comments
Flip Flop - A Satisfied Man

For the last few years, D and I have had a "get it while you can" kind of sex life. If the planets were aligned and the kids were asleep and if I felt like giving in to his overactive libido, or if I felt guilty for not being amorous enough, we would have sex. Obviously, this has changed. Maybe it's our lifestyle changes, maybe it's because I quit drinking, maybe it's because I'm not overwhelmed by my life anymore, maybe it's because he does the dishes every night. Whatever it is, it's working. I fantasize about being fucked by my sexy man all the time. I try to outlast the kids at night so that D and I can have some playtime of our own. I enjoy starting his day off with a bj...he's so much happier and nicer to be around. I love being around him and being touched by him. I just want to gobble him up...hmmm, have him gobble me up! :-)

That being said, I have fallen asleep with our toddler the last two nights and D has not woken me up for our alone time. Two nights in a row! In the past, this would lead to guilt on my part and resentment on his. Now it leads to disappointment on my part and acceptance on his. Whoa. Basically, he said it was because he knows he can take me whenever he feels like it and that we have so much more playtime now. This change in attitude also makes our interaction in every day life much more playful and fun.

So, I guess the real question is: when am I going to get introduced to that damn whip?

posted by Gabby Hey at 10:14 AM 3 comments
Wednesday, May 25, 2005
Bettie in Bondage: to be that cool...

Originally uploaded by gabbyhey.
If only I could look as cool and gorgeous as Bettie Page while being spanked! In my imagination, this is how sexy I look to my D (while spanking me or sliding that damn vibrating plug up my ass). Of course, he doesn't have any patience for old style garters and panties -- he's definitely a thong and babydoll kind of man (topped off with fishnet all-in-one garters), but I can dream, can't I? ;-)

posted by Gabby Hey at 1:27 PM 2 comments
Tuesday, May 24, 2005
The L Word

Strange, I've never really had girl-on-girl fantasies, but I'm really fascinated with and drawn to the show The L Word. Obviously, the show deals more with relationships than anything else, but there is a healthy sprinkling of sexual discussion and activity. Does anyone else watch this show?

posted by Gabby Hey at 3:35 PM 2 comments
When the Whip Comes Down...

I've spent a lifetime trying to bury my true sexual self and trying to be someone that I think I'm supposed to be. The serenity and freedom associated with allowing myself to be who I really am (mother, lover, slut, submissive, strong, spiritual, intelligent, compliant, loving, affectionate, dominated) is almost overwhelming. I have so many questions and so many things to learn, but I'm trying to be patient. Surrending to the process, instead of trying to control and accelerate it, has made the whole journey so much more enjoyable. And things are progessing just as they should.

Just when I start to feel frustrated with my newfound sexual freedom (read: horniness) and think that my Darling D might not really understand what I need from him in terms of domination or discipline, he proves me wrong. He's been very eager to adopt new rituals and toys (remind me to tell you about the vibrating, waterproof butt plug) and has even playfully applied a little strength to his demands and directions. He's obviously testing the waters for my limits and preferences. And I'm trying to give feedback appropriately and trying to keep the lines of communication open (I have a really hard time talking about sex, but I'm getting better at it). And tonight I've been promised...uh, I mean threatened, that the whip finally makes its debut tonight.

The mere thought of it makes me nervous and frightened and excited all at the same time. He's used it in the past very lightly and playfully, but I think he means business tonight. :-)

posted by Gabby Hey at 1:04 PM 8 comments
Monday, May 23, 2005
Haiku Venue

I'd seen her mentioned on other blogs and then Pegva of www.haikuvenue.com commented on my blog so I went and checked out hers. First, I have to say that I love the description in her "About Me" that says:
How boring it would be if we were all the same... stop trying to "fit in" won't you?
How true, Peg. Also, I love her blog. Period. She's very cool and very clever. And very inspiring. I don't think I've written a haiku (an haiku?) since high school, but I'll give it a try (be kind):

today, I am free
Life...my sex, my love, my self
like never before

posted by Gabby Hey at 11:27 AM 4 comments
Book Tag! I'm it.

Both *J* and Hardy tagged me for the book thing, so here 'tis:

1. Total number of books I've owned:
I love books. I love to read books, I love to touch books, and I love to buy books. I love all kinds of books: political, spiritual, educational, poetic, erotic, you name it. I have no idea how many I actually own...probably 1000s.

2. I can never buy just one book. I used to buy a lot of books online, but I discovered that part of the adventure of reading is the actual trip to the bookstore and the "discovery" of the book. My last trip to the bookstore (last Tuesday), I bought:

3. The Last Book I read:
I usually read several at the same time, but the last two I actually finished cover to cover were The Loving Dominant and God Wears Lipstick.

4. 5 books that mean something to me.
Only 5!??? Almost impossible for me. This one is very, very difficult for me to answer. I have a tendency to want to list things I've read recently, but I'm forced to really think back to books that made an impact on me.
5. Tag 5 people and request they fill this out on their journals
It's hard to figure out who's been tagged already and I don't know many people online yet. So, for what it's worth, here's my list...("Tag, you're it!")

posted by Gabby Hey at 8:18 AM 10 comments